Expectations again

This topic i guess has become the underlying reason for most issues i can immediately think of as of now, big small whatever be the category 

Be it office or with my people , family or friends

When one behaves in a certain way we expect other person to reciprocate/ understand by default reason of such behavior, and there is a certain behavior expectation

Assume 2 characters A and B and some scenarios : 

Both are good friends, A would share things with B, on which B is generally a good listener and expects that A should spend most time with B, and talk less otherwise especially identify only the few non idiotic(if i may call them) and only interact with them since B is that way (well not always though)

Now B is not as expressive, something which A had been sharing or shares becomes too trivial an information to share with A. In the same breath if A does not share such information it could possibly result in some resent or argument

Well if you read through you may wonder how simple is that, A may not say perhaps as much and B should also understand- sounds easy, equally difficult to implement 

Take this as an office environment, A being the supervisor and B the team member

While B is a good team member work wise but forgets and work priority is basis his priority 

B expects the priority to be as per organisation requirement, A is aligned but for things he feels is a priority

Now starts the follow up sessions, soft ones, harsh ones too

Be it a family scene, spouse siblings parent and children

Here be it any relationship, the bar is set even higher , saying “you are family, you atleast should understand/ should have understood “

Or Parents at times become over protective of children and feel they would not be able to really do it right unless they dont follow Parent instructions

Here comes another struggle of trust, letting a person retain his individuality, co exist with difference of opinion with people of same/ varied personalities

What each one forgets is that be it any relationship, end of the day all individuals are different personalities

Either we set clear expectations and abide them too instead of only expecting

To question why another person could not do something is simpler than doing it onself

Again i think i could go on writing on this, my take away is as follows :

Few characteristics of nature may/ may not change - those that can be changed, give a try to modify if that helps to set lower expectations 

In any relationship i think there needs to be a priority setting too

Some relationships are God given which you get by birth, others come to us as we grow up in various forms

What can perhaps be done is , list down which things of this relationship are so important that bring joy to my life or why is the relationship important 

Then list down complaints or disconnects if i could call this) from the relationship or the person

Then is simple Maths - give weightages

And you have your answer 

Now comes the advanced level of this issue. There could be multiple pros and/or cons and the weigh scale goes fot a toss 

One should yet try, the weigh scale in a see saw mode could create doubts or a slight tilt may also cause an issue

(This is also dependent on how when why and point in time outcome)

Weightage are more to assess which of these expectations are really as important to get as much bothered upon, how many or how we can overcome these.

Thats it for now, would be back with more expectations :)