Me time

How is it to be alone ? Different people relate this in different ways, their thought may be constant all the time or at time it differs with the state of mind or circumstances or point in time.

How so ?

First of all it depends on the basic nature of an individual, then how he/she has been brought up/ likings/past experiences/ peer group and its impact/ age group/ what is the current state of mind and overall state of mind/ whether generally he or she is alone or otherwise.

If i have to describe about myself, i have always been with my people, they would never really leave me, alone in the house, or let me go out alone or rather even with friends. So even as a kid when left alone in the house was a thrill game, what would I really do, should i play, watch tv , talk to friends ? I would really be able to do all this stuff with all around, but its just the thrill perhaps that makes you feel , just do something different.

This is how i grew up. Somehow i would have always wanted to have people around, to talk be with me

Over last few years i guess my preference has changed a bit, how and why ? I would want to be alone to be with myself, just my me time

Well not always though, am told and have read that a person should not depend on other people or things to be happy, i really want to train my brain to get this into my head and heart so strongly (would talk about this another time though)

What do i want to do then, "during the me time thing"? Practically nothing if u really ask me

What would i want to think ? Maybe just nothing at all

How healthy or not so healthy is this ? My own reasoning says nothing could get better

It goes like this, by doing nothing, one would want to just so some basic stuff, enjoy nature maybe, just look around , basically slow down

This is essential for the brain which is non stop into some activity or doing or thinking

While we say we would not think, human mind does alot of thinking and in such times thinking is good

Overthinking generally happens when mind is into something and gets distracted

But basic thinking is good, at times perhaps it gives mental clarity

I further split this into two parts, self found time and imposed time when you find ways to do sometbing good

Which is better

A person turning or wanting to become better would try and use the self generated me.time for things he or she would like to do or choose not to do anything at all

One may not like to be put into some kind of time bound or waying away time and being told to do or not do something

However an evolved person is different, he would make use of whatever however time he or she gets instead of getting away with the drift

How evolved am i ? I questioned myself, am i , not really was the answer i would say

How do i reach that level? Lets see it could be some better focus, meditation perhaps, defining clear goals of focussed time, other than that.too.

One needs to develop or train and mould the brain such that be whatever it should get into "its zone"

This zone could be a set of things it may choose to do basis its mood and time, with an upper bound on few things to avoid complete binge watching etc

As i write this it seems simple to me, just compartmentalise your time, set up things and do it

Easier said than done coz the more you try there are many external factors, people close ones and perhaps just people around, situations that may affect the overall scheme of things

What then ? As of now i could just say realisation or identification perhaps is important, start with baby steps, slow but steady , you may not evolve soon, neither did the universe right ? No sooner you would find yourself getting some what better , which would motivate you.more and then you would do better