Snakes & Ladders

What is the first or maybe what are the initial tjoughts when you hear this ?

The game yes obviously, what more ? Maybe the typical one where you get to somewhere snd get pulled down by someone/ luck or just some happening if not induced by a person or thing

There is something beyond these 2 immediate thoughts i could think of , rather heard it from someone and got a ready hand experience so thought to pen this one

When you plan or think or something to be done for or with somebody special/close/ important be it family or friend or anybody who matters in some form

The amount of thought or effort being put in to make the occasion special would vary depending on how important is that person or occasion, the emotional bonding/ how much you know the person or closeness / your own nature in terms of your thoughts being put in / the detailing or casual behavior - its a combination of involvement of self and on the other person both 

Finally assuming the act done was not meant to be a tick in the box and all emotions being put in with all details being taken care of 

Its liked appreciated yes , but then comes the typical issue that leads to multiple emotions and most of these being on the negative side - expectations

You end up expecting a certain behavior / appreciation for your act - after all so much planning/ detailing deserves that and once you dont get that its like going to the top on the ladder and getting a random reaction gets you down 

Such behavior can further lead to mixed feelings , its like a purpose which was being pursued over some time lost in vain , its like you are flying a kite high and suddenly its cut in between and it sways aimlessly to end up falling/getting struck 

What should be done? Coz you cant and rather should not be overthinking about this , but its not giving you peace either 

Again no straight answers, but yes the cruz being dont really expect forget over expecting

Everyone is in their zone in some form or manner, alignment is not really possible all the time

Identify how important he /she is and whether its worth the effort, if it is, just go for it , a second of happiness if that counts, dont even expect more

Weigh the other way round aspect too, doing something for someone not worth or where your worth is not what you deserve - you know your answers here

So before you conclude to do or not do such a special thing again - just remember the zone differential and both zones better co exist for a coherent existence 

And such things dont and should not really matter for people who are truly special :) while its reactions from these only which could hurt more

Vicious circle this becomes as you think more of it, so its best not to think as much, do what you can do best and just do it , you feel good and happy doing it right so do it for your sake :) 

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