If things happen according to you, it is good. But if they don’t, it is God’s wish — so it is even better.

 We hear this, we repeat this.

But when life actually unfolds differently from what we hoped, the mind goes blank, gets overwhelmed, confused, even restless.

We compare, we blame ourselves or someone else, we feel sad.

And each person expresses that pain differently.

Let me share a personal experience.

There was someone I thought could be suitable for marriage.

There were some complications, and I remember praying to God — “Just let us meet once… just once. The rest will fall in place.”

And strangely, we did meet. Not just once, but a couple of times.

We felt we liked each other, and for a moment everything seemed perfect.

There were a few things that felt like possible adjustments, but I brushed them aside.

Then suddenly, in the middle of everything, he ghosted.

I felt terrible.

I called, texted, tried everything to reach him.

My mind kept circling around what could have gone wrong.

Days passed, then months, and I was still thinking about it.

(If I’m honest, I still do once in a while.)

But now, when I reflect with a calmer mind, I feel maybe it simply wasn’t meant for me.

I prayed so intensely — “just once” — and God did hear me.

But perhaps He also knew that this wasn’t right for the long run.

So He allowed that one meeting, those few moments… but He didn’t allow it to continue.

This thought gives me some peace.

It doesn’t erase everything, and it isn’t the only thing that bothers me, but it helps.

It makes me feel lighter, more accepting, and a little more aligned with the idea that sometimes things “not working out” is also a form of protection.