Do what you expect from Others

 Easier said than done, isn’t it?

Each of us stands on both sides at different points in time.

There are moments when we expect certain behavior from others — and moments when we fail to offer the same ourselves.

When we are on the receiving end, the reaction is instant.

We feel bad, angry, irate, upset.

We replay the past, project the future, and link everything together — often depending on our mood more than the situation itself.

But when we are the ones falling short, the realization rarely comes with the same clarity.

What feels deeply hurtful when done to us somehow feels harmless when done by us.

This pattern repeats more often than we would like to admit.

And even when we try to stay sane while someone else reacts or responds in an unexpected way, holding on to that sanity is rare.

We give up quickly. We react.

I know this because I have been on both sides.


What I am trying to practice now is simple — though far from easy.

When I expect something and don’t receive it the way I hoped, I try not to react immediately.

I try to pause.

Sometimes I succeed, many times I don’t.

It takes me back to a thought I’ve written about earlier — https://logicallekh.blogspot.com/2026/01/pause-before-you-react-part-2.html

Easier said than done, again.

But I am beginning to believe that only consistent, conscious attempts — no matter how imperfect — can make this work.

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