Logical lekhika

  A few simple conversations recently made me revisit something I had written about before — anger. For years, I never realised when impatience became a habit. In fact, I believed I was better than many others. The thought that I needed improvement never crossed my mind — because there was no awareness. Only when I consciously started slowing down — pausing before reacting — did I see it clearly. My reactions were often disproportionate to the situation. Irrespective of the gravity, the intensity remained the same. Sometimes, multiple small triggers would accumulate and burst out as one large reaction. And that is unfair — to others and to oneself. When I now observe certain reactions from loved ones or supervisors at work, I notice how uncalled for they feel. It made me reflect: Shouldn’t reaction be proportional? Shouldn’t it consider: The depth of the situation? The probable impact? The past trend? The intent or nature of the person involved? Eve...

  Lately, I find myself feeling disinterested. Not in everything — but in certain people, conversations, and patterns. At times I feel lost. At times I feel surprisingly clear — especially about what I do not want. So I wonder: Is this a good phase? Or am I drifting somewhere I shouldn’t be? To understand it better, I tried something simple — a mental “match the following.” Which things energise me? Which drain me? Which feel necessary? Which feel optional? Some answers were immediate. Some still sit in the “dilemma” column. But even that exercise brought clarity. I’ve noticed I’m naturally avoiding certain people and situations. Even where I haven’t fully distanced myself yet, the desire to do so exists. On the other hand, the things that truly matter — better focus, better health, better mental space — I’ve either initiated or strongly intend to. Some more dilemmas yet exist but i guess its ok that way for some  That tells me something. Perhaps this i...

  Those who fit this definition rarely realise they do. They simply prefer things their way. And when that way is not followed, the reaction can escalate — sometimes disproportionately. I have encountered a few such personalities — both at home and at work. Two of them have been constants over large parts of my life. At home, when there is only one central authority deciding everything, it stops feeling like a shared space. It may be said that decisions are “for everyone,” but in reality, participation is limited. What people often fail to realise is the silent impact control creates. It breeds: Fear Frustration Irritation Some rebel. Some withdraw. Some learn to lie. Some stop expressing themselves altogether. And sometimes, it creates something even more complex. At times, prolonged exposure to control produces more control-driven individuals — people who unknowingly replicate the very pattern they grew up under. They may not realise they are doing it, unless...

  I have felt a deep, unexplainable liking for certain people in my life. With some, the connection is instant — effortless — as if it already existed before words or time could define it. We may not meet or speak for months, sometimes years, yet the feeling remains unchanged: love, respect, care, and genuine good wishes. One such connection is with a little child — my neighbour’s daughter. I saw her when she was barely a day old, and somehow, she stole my heart instantly. During the work-from-home days of COVID, she became my stress buster. After long, tiring workdays, I would look forward to the day ending — just to spend a little time with her. When we eventually shifted homes, I remember crying — really crying — like a child. The thought that I might not see her often overwhelmed me more than I expected. Distance, thankfully, did not dilute the bond. We met occasionally, visited each other, and even when time passed, the warmth stayed. Children do not remember...