Weight your anger

A few simple conversations recently made me revisit something I had written about before — anger.

For years, I never realised when impatience became a habit.

In fact, I believed I was better than many others.

The thought that I needed improvement never crossed my mind — because there was no awareness.

Only when I consciously started slowing down — pausing before reacting — did I see it clearly.

My reactions were often disproportionate to the situation.

Irrespective of the gravity, the intensity remained the same.

Sometimes, multiple small triggers would accumulate and burst out as one large reaction.

And that is unfair — to others and to oneself.

When I now observe certain reactions from loved ones or supervisors at work, I notice how uncalled for they feel.

It made me reflect:

Shouldn’t reaction be proportional?

Shouldn’t it consider:

Every small mistake does not require a harsh response.

Frequent harshness does not correct behaviour — it demotivates.

Occasional mood swings are human.

Recurring intensity becomes a pattern.

And patterns shape environments.

When someone grows in designation, stature, or authority — whether in family or at work — others subconsciously mirror them.

If impatience becomes the norm at the top, it multiplies below.

A second line of similar behaviour forms.

Then a third.

Before we realise it, we have created an ecosystem of tension.

Unchecked anger does not just impact one moment.

It affects:

Anger is not the problem.

Unmeasured anger is.

And the higher we rise — in family, in teams, in designation — the more our emotional weight multiplies.

If we do not weigh our anger,

we unknowingly teach others how to react.

Leadership is not tested in calm moments.

It is revealed in how proportionately we respond to chaos.

Maybe growth is not about becoming softer.

Maybe it is about becoming measured.

Logical lekhika